Lois H

My boyfriend battled with alcoholism long before I met him. We met drinking, but 4 months into the relationship he got 2 DUI's within 2 weeks of each other. I like to party, but quit drinking to support him while he was on home confinement. He lasted 6 months and stopped breathalizing and going to his drivers benefits program. I lasted 7 months and said forget it. I couldn't stay sober in his insane state. He drank vodka 24/7, all night and day. His mom was so wonderful to me and I felt like I was lying to her when we talked because I never mentioned that he was blowing off his home confinement and had been drinking all along, until March 16, when I told both her and his step dad. Home confinement never busted him, though I knew they must've known. I felt so relieved to tell both of them and he agreed to get help, but that night he got really sick. He kept throwing up all over the bed and I insisted we go to the hospital. He said, "No just hold me. I'm so cold." I wrapped him up in 4 blankets and held him as he shivered, thinking we'd get him into detox the next day. At 5 a.m. the next morning I woke up to him vomiting bile and being unresponsive. I jumped out of bed and called 911 as he began to have a seizure or heart attack in front of me. He died soon after on St. Patricks Day. His mom and I have become so close and the support she and his dad have given me is unbelievable. They have taken over the payment on the sailboat we lived on together to make sure I get it in my name. What wonderful people. He adored his mom and I, having lost my own mom and dad in my 20's am so lucky to have them to call me their daughter in law, even though we hadn't married. He asked me, but he wasn't sober and I asked him to ask me when he was. What incredible people. How lucky am I to have had the love of a troubled, but truly giving man and to now have the mom I've been missing for almost half of my life.

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